I legitimately find it difficult to long term stay annoyed with people who have wronged me. I have close friends and family telling me how ridiculous it is I’m still in touch and friendly with people I used to consider friends but briefly cut them out after they treated me horribly. I can see the logic and feel as though I SHOULD hate certain people for how they’ve been in the past but I just don’t feel any anger or resentment and am quite happy to just forget the past. Is this weird and/or unhealthy?
I think holding a grudge is not good for anyone. However, remembering details about who wrongs you and over what is important–you take measures to avoid letting them take advantage of you again. They have damaged your trust in them.
Your trust level in people should reflect how they’ve treated you. It should be possible to earn back trust over mistakes when someone truly regrets wrongdoing, but people should understand that this takes time and consistency. Anyone who doesn’t understand this is not worthy of your trust.