I thought she just didn’t want to do sex stuff or cuddle or show affection…

Anyway I just thought it was important to let the world know that you can be volcel army and still be in a committed ten year relationship. In fact isn’t that what true comradeship is built on?

Weapons grade cope aside, I think I’m one of those weird types of humans who needs affection and so on. Am I really going to have to start dating again? FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK

  • farting_weedman [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
    23·
    4 months ago

    If they’re not able to meet you somewhere that works, you gotta protect yourself.

    Do not expect nonmonagamy to work. It will add a tremendous amount of stress to both your lives and your relationship. This is almost never a positive outcome.

    • CptKrkIsClmbngThMntn [any]@hexbear.netEnglish
      33·
      4 months ago

      Do not expect nonmonagamy to work.

      This should be clarified. Non-monogamy can work very well for people who are non-monogamous in some capacity and intentional about their relationship structures from the get go. It’s a terrible idea for monogamous people who don’t feel their needs are being met to try to open up to correct that.

    • TheDialectic [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
      13·
      4 months ago

      As a non monogamous person myself this is a fair point. It takes and entirely diffrent skill set to do this successfully and there is no guarantee life would have prepared you both adequately at this moment.