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  • bowroattoLiberty Hub@lemmy.blahaj.zoneLaziness Does Not Exist
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    7 months ago

    I’ve come across this before and read it each time. For people who’ve been called lazy it can help clarify or at least help you feel seen.

    It also renews my sense of compassion when I feel myself drifting towards thinking or judging others as lazy.

    Even if a bit woo woo for your tastes, Worth it for the perspective, IMO.




  • bowroattoAutism@lemmy.worldrobots
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    7 months ago

    Same, both points. The 3rd time it gave me a garbage answer, I could ask for what phrasing mistakes or assumptions I may be making leading to the bad output.

    Doesn’t make the faces my boss does when asked the same thing.



  • bowroattoADHD memes@lemmy.dbzer0.comA walking hypocrisy
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    10 months ago

    When my meds and life are just right, everything is tight and aligned and organized and on time and happy. I think it’s both something I enjoy but also engage in when happy. As that balance starts to waiver, sometimes it is the obvious “I hate this routine is off” can be the “this is my happy routine and I hate that I have to alter or even do it less than ideally”

    and yes, I know this is a starbucks :)








  • bowroattoAutism@lemmy.worldInstruction manual
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    1 year ago

    Even then… Was sitting in a room with 6-7 people and someone remarked I was the only one without a device in my hands.

    That is what my ”research" indicated, no phones to be open to conversation, I’d much prefer quiet phone time. :) Somehow always on the wrong side



  • I’m a mess with family. For work however I inhale through the mouth to fill my lungs, then another sharp intake through the nose, followed by a slow exhale through the mouth like cooling cocoa. The exhale should be long. Repeat 1-3 times until I am calm enough to excuse myself. I practiced this in non-crisis situations so it’s second nature and so I can do it subtly, but it does work “out loud” with a finger held up to hold off questions). Once is usually enough. But being able to say “I’m sorry, I have to step away” or “be right back” in a calm voice, rather than that shaky-voice is clutch.

    Then I do something from TIPP (reference below). I recommend having a few ready at hand for various situations. At work, I’ll go run up the stairs ( Intense exercise, ideally this would be longer, but even just a minute or two helps). That or paced breathing, sounds like you already have some of those exercises queued up. Holding an ice cube is a popular one.

    (not endorsing anything on this site, just for the TIPP explanation, because I’m bad with acronyms. https://footprintscommunity.org.au/resources/introduction-to-dialectal-behavioural-therapy-the-tipp-skill/