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Cake day: 2023年6月19日

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  • That’s really rough and I’m so sorry you and your sister are going through this. Try to go easy on yourself for starters. Secondly, is there extended family and/or friends who can provide support to you, your sister and your parents during this period? You’re going to need support whilst you’re away and it will probably help you as well if you know someone’s there to support your sister whilst you’re away.









  • She … told me that that it wasn’t my fault. But I know deep down, it is.

    Your sister is right. It’s not your fault. You’re not responsible for the actions of your parents; it was their job to make sure both you and your sister got the attention and support you needed growing up.

    I did not experience this imbalance to anywhere near the same degree as you growing up. I certainly felt the pressure to achieve academically as I was the academically-inclined one of the family and my siblings would sometimes compare themselves to me in this regard, even though our parents weren’t pushing us into any particular course of study or career. But most of the friction between myself and one of my siblings was more due to my inadequate social skills during my teens. These days I get along well with my siblings and all of us have different careers and qualifications.