• Rolando@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    Here’s the alternative:

    • Justice of the Peace ceremony: $43 (including license, supply your own witnesses)
    • session at photography studio: $13-$500 (including prints and downloads)
    • BYOB party at your place that evening: $0

    Basically, finding out your partner wants a big wedding is a huge go/no-go moment. Save the money for when you really need it.

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      My wife and I were planning our wedding a year from then when I got a job offer to the US and we had to get married in a hurry to avoid some issues with the visas.

      Best decision ever, we had a small party at my SIL patio, my parents got us tacos catering, a friend of my wife who has won some iPod battles was or “DJ” and we got some cheap wines at costco and told people to BYOB

      We only had to rent some chairs and tables but it wasn’t very expensive

      We were planning to celebrate our 1st anniversary doing a “wedding” party but we decided to use the money to travel 3 weeks to Japan instead

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        Photoshoot’s free. The $13 is for the print you get.

        You mock, but my grandparents only have a couple photos of the day they were married. But they did stick together all their lives, and they did raise their kids as best they could within their means.

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          There was a study a few years ago that showed that people who spend less on wedding have a lower chance of divorce.

          On the other hand not going for a honeymoon increase divorce rate.

          So better save money on the wedding and spend it on a honeymoon.

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          I didn’t realize you were referencing something from like 50-60 years ago. All in all, you make valid points… I have lived long enough to personally validate them. It was just the “thirteen to five hundred dollars” range that made me chuckle!

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    9 months ago

    Never, ever, book a location for a “Wedding”. Always book it for a “Family Event”.

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    Reminds me of a blog I followed about a guy having a castle built. He’d get contractors out for various bits and before they arrived they’d be like “oh its X for job Y” but when they got there and saw that it was for a castle, well magically the cost doubled. This might make sense in some parts but when the painter is trying to increase his price for square footage he quoted on the phone? Nah fam that ain’t it.

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    Getting married in about 6 weeks. Compared to my first one 10 years ago, it’s nuts. One metric I read said that wedding costs were up 40% post COVID. My first wedding was maybe $5,000 and that was super strict budget. This one is closer to $25k.

    My fiancée was quoted between $300-650 for makeup only. Seriously?? DJ is minimum $900 for 5 hours of work, I got a lot of quotes in the $1300 range, or $2200 for better lighting ($440/hour??) Look I know you had to buy your own equipment but holy hell.

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    I purchased a catering dinner package (which came with tea, coffee, and lemonade) and full open bar - apparently neither of these included water. That was an additional $200.00.

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      Now I imagine some guys thinking “Ah, I don’t want to fuck up ChexMaxs financial situation. I’ll just drink water the whole night to save him some money!”

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    People tend to demand perfection when it comes to weddings. I’m pretty sure that’s why it’s more expensive. In general, prices rise alongside expectations.

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      With how much self-centered egotistical annoyances wedding planners and other suppliers have to deal with sometimes, I might actually be inclined to understand that pricing

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      You see this in aviation and heavy rail transport as well for a similar reason. The critical items like the engines, control systems and emergency equipment being expensive is obvious, they’ve been heavily tested and made super resilient with very strict certification criteria, but it even extends down to things that has pretty much zero impact on safety. That flimsy seat back table that can barely hold your laptop and that hard as a rock cushion cost the airline far more than you can imagine, costs which are inevetably passed onto you.

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    If you end up doing a big wedding I would recommend telling as many of the vendors and suppliers that it’s for a birthday party instead. It’ll still be expensive but should be more manageable

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      “Yes, I’d like the traditional tiered birthday cake with the bride and groom on top. Thanks.”

      “How much are your birthday rose petal cannons?”

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        You would be surprised. Family friends of ours are Greek and rich, and they do not do anything small. I hate to perpetuate stereotypes but if you’ve seen My Big Fat Greek Wedding, it’s like that with them but for everything. Birthdays, the christian holidays, just a summer BBQ, all huge. The bride and groom on top yeah that’ll tip the baker off but that’s not hard to quickly put on yourself.

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    I believe there is a Ferangi rule of acquisition for this

    I think, it goes something like, Peace us good for business, and war is also good for business.

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          It’s great if you’ve got the space to store large amounts of stuff. When I got my first house I went out and bought a couple big dog food containers, and filled them with 50lb bags of flour and sugar from Costco for less than $20 for both bags. Now I can bake all I want and never worry about running out of the essentials.

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                Alright, that is good. I was afraid that you are still using the same package back from whenever you moved in, which would have likely been bad.

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            Yeah we used to shop there a while back, but kind of just stopped because we’ve gotten busier and have relied on grocery delivery more often + are shopping at local stores for fresher meat + produce.

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      If you buy a bottle by itself. I can’t imagine people doing that though. Buy a 24 pack for $5. The difference in pricing boggles my mind. Convenience is such a large upcharge.

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        The use case in my mind is a vending machine or at a grocery/convenience/mall/not costco store when all you need is one bottle. There’s only so many 24/36 packs folks can buy, especially when out and about.