Seriously. I don’t have the energy to keep track of that shit. If somebody was shitty to me they just get labeled as “not friend” and get treated like an acquaintance. Anything more requires me to care about them in some way, and I have shit to do.

You mean you don’t hyper fixate on a few uncomfortable moments from your past and hold grudges based on those?

„Here’s the ten bucks you let me borrow, sorry it took so long, I hope you aren’t angry at me“

I gave this person money?

I only hold one single grudge in my life. The one fucker in high-school who took the accountant role when my mother died of cancer, took the money my class raised for my family, and spent them on luxury stuff for himself.

I was featured in a story told by someone at a funeral regarding some disagreement/fight I and the deceased had.

Don’t remember it at all, nothing about it even rang a bell.

Mine is a fun sort of specific. Years later, I’ll remember that I hate a person’s guts but will completely forget why I hate them. But that visceral hate stays with me.

I recently had a conversation with my ex-fiancée of 15 years and she was apologizing for things I didn’t even remember her doing. But I remember the bitterness from those things.

Most of the time when I’m replying to posts I’m doubting if what I’m typing is related at all to the post because I forgor what it’s about as soon as I’m at the comment box and I just hope nobody notices when/if I’m typing pure bullshit.

My memory is such shit but I guess for stuff between me and my best friend I used to have it did help that I was never able to hold a grudge. I learned apologizing real quick and the last few arguments we had I apologized to her within a minute or two of starting the argument because I didn’t want to lose her anymore (though we used to always come back to each other sooner or later anyways). Not the last one we had though, I miss her with every last piece of my heart 💔.

So much time.

I guess I’m different. If you burn me enough to illicit disgust, I will remember that over all else and I only forgive if deserving. I’ve had to many people take advantage of me. I don’t hold grudges, I identify if you are a positive or negative effect on my life and treat accordingly.

Wait, bad memory is a sign of ADHD?

When you have OCD and ADHD so you hold onto the grudge because what if you forget???

So weird to see a liberal content creator use that weird selective title case that became submissions with conservative posters. (You know, capitalizing the first letter of some words)

Edit: to clarify, I’m not trying to create drama or accuse anyone of anything. I’m just curious because I always associated this style of capitalization with certain discourse (or with German language)

Meanwhile there are people that I have literally had a grudge against for decades. All they have to do to get themselves off the shitlist is to not be cunts to everyone around them. That’s literally it. Except Connie. I want an apology for what you did.

That’s why you need to read Building A Second Brain by Tiago Forte. Then you can just have you Little Black Book in the cloud so you never forget.

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I tend not to hold grudges because I don’t see the point of holding anger. If someone wrongs me I might increase the distance between us socially or not trust them with certain things if I feel it would be unwise to continue. Sometimes there needs to be some kind of reconciliation for things to be close again. I’ve definitely stopped being friends with people for reasons that were unlikely to change or where it wasn’t worth continuing, but it’s very hard for me to stay mad at them or wish them ill. Even the people who’ve done awful things to me or who are now contemptible in many respects, I just kind of hope they do better in the future, far away from me.

I’ve never considered this to have anything to do with my adhd, but maybe? It would definitely be something more complicated than just forgetting though.