It’s painfully obvious that the Lemmy population is primarily men.
Frustrating.
edit: to save my sanity, I choose believe that the majority of comments here are trolling. Y’all cannot genuinely be this dense.
I wanted to talk with other women about this to get more clarity and it turns into…this. Damn.
You do you realize that this is exactly the same issue for the man, right? Literally: The man may not even realize that she has any romantic interest.
The secondary problem is that if the man thinks the answer might be yes, and chooses to act on that, he is far more likely to be treated as a harasser if he’s wrong.
Then she should speak up and vice versa.
It’s not that deep.
Well, yes it should be this simple, in an ideal social world where everyone is a good actor with no ulteriror motives.
In reality, social interaction is not this simple, and generally the man is expected to initiate. Social behavior hasn’t actually caught up to modern ideas about gender equality, and few women are willing to actually take the risk of rejection and instead assume that the man will take that burden by default.
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