• henfredemars
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    1 year ago

    When I met my wife, she was massively overweight, no job no money, and because of crippling depression it was extremely hard for her to get the motivation to do things she actually enjoys, let alone date. Of course, her being a woman, I believe she was judged especially harshly for her physical appearance. People had the gall to tell me I was making a mistake. Someone like you can do so much better. Years of working through her insecurities as the first step to getting to a healthier place in body and mind. Sometimes she struggled being there for me because she was hardly there for herself.

    What I’m saying is sometimes you don’t know what you want. I don’t really believe in leagues. I believe in finding someone who makes you happy. And when you’re happy, you stop caring what other people think.

    • UlyssesT [he/him]@hexbear.net
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      1 year ago

      What I’m saying is sometimes you don’t know what you want. I don’t really believe in leagues. I believe in finding someone who makes you happy. And when you’re happy, you stop caring what other people think.

      The “objective/10” mindset for measuring living, breathing, thinking, feeling human beings is poison, agreed.