Of course we don’t need people gate keeping rape, just as much as we don’t need people imposing rape.
Rape, as any other crime, needs an objective meaning, so you can determine if it’s or isn’t rape. That, my friend, is a definition, not gatekeeping. Argue with reasons, not your guts.
Edit: since I can’t reply anymore, I’ll try to close my point here.
All three sources provided below that OP’s partner taped him by taking his condom and asking him to continue sex, talk about a man removing a condom and continuing sex without the knowledge of her partner. Hard to argue that OP’s partner taking his condom openly, and asking for him to continue intercourse, is also “stealthing”. The very label of “stealthing” means doing it surreptitiously.
By both a legal and moral definition, removing a condom, or sabotaging a condom without informed consent of your partner (whether it’s the male or female doing it) is committing an act of rape, regardless of any physical harm or consequences which may or may not result.
Of course we don’t need people gate keeping rape, just as much as we don’t need people imposing rape.
Rape, as any other crime, needs an objective meaning, so you can determine if it’s or isn’t rape. That, my friend, is a definition, not gatekeeping. Argue with reasons, not your guts.
Edit: since I can’t reply anymore, I’ll try to close my point here.
All three sources provided below that OP’s partner taped him by taking his condom and asking him to continue sex, talk about a man removing a condom and continuing sex without the knowledge of her partner. Hard to argue that OP’s partner taking his condom openly, and asking for him to continue intercourse, is also “stealthing”. The very label of “stealthing” means doing it surreptitiously.
If OP had agreed to continue sex, that’s consent.
https://rapecrisis.org.uk/get-informed/types-of-sexual-violence/what-is-stealthing/
https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/crime/condom-removed-during-sex-stealthing-b2562031.html
https://reeds.co.uk/insights/stealthing-and-conditional-consent/
By both a legal and moral definition, removing a condom, or sabotaging a condom without informed consent of your partner (whether it’s the male or female doing it) is committing an act of rape, regardless of any physical harm or consequences which may or may not result.
Thanks for the assist!